showing honor…toward the un-honorable

I was talking with a friend the other day who was sharing with me some very painful parts of her early childhood. An only child to an abusive father, a mentally-ill, perfection-driven mother…the loneliness, the shame, the pressure…the results and consequences of living through those circumstances…some of which still linger to this day… She was … Continue Reading

what “marriage is work” really means

When Matt and I were engaged I absolutely hated the idea that marriage would be “work”. Work had such a negative connotation with it and it totally made me itchy (that’s just my word for uncomfortable) to think about one another in that way. We were SO in love, right? Then this thing called life … Continue Reading

the one thing guaranteed to end all marriages

This morning I woke up to a text I’ve known for months was coming… It read, “the divorce is done.” Despite the foreknowledge, the finality of those four simple words put an immediate lump in my throat and an ache in my stomach. Today my parents marriage of 44 years is officially over. The rings have been … Continue Reading