get lost in your season mama, you are where you need to be
I stood in the kitchen making taco meat last night, but standing was even too much. I grabbed a stool to continue stirring while I listened to the kids chatter and Matt tell me about his day.Ā
I was tired. Really tired. And as I served up the plates my insides were begging for someone to tell me to just go lay down. I picked at my food, but honestly I was too tired to be hungry.Ā
Matt could tell I wasnāt myself, so he sent me upstairs, assuring me heād āgot itā and would get the kids fed and also to bed. It took him a few times to convince me to leave the table, but I listened. (Honestly I was afraid if I didnāt take him up on it he might retract the offer!) So I went upstairs, got on my pajamas, brushed my teeth and tucked myself into bedā¦with bright daylight still pouring through my windows.Ā
Since March life has hit the fast forward button and hasnāt slowed in the least.Ā
And Iāve learned something during these past few months of chaos.
That āsomething,ā I confess, I have had to learn a number of times. Thereās times I get it, and then Iāll forget, and I have to relearn it all over again.Ā
Itās humbling to have to be retaught the same thing over and over, so this time Iām writing it down because maybe the act of writing it will encourage me to not keep forgetting! And maybe, just maybe, by Godās grace, itāll encourage you at the same time.
Itās okay to get lost.
Itās okay to get lostā¦in your season:
This season for me is packing up boxes, closing down one life, opening up another, unpacking boxes, cleaning, traveling, cleaning some moreā¦trying to come up with meals on the road and now in a home where everything is out of order, finding venues to do laundry because the drier in the new house doesnāt workā¦washing every dish by hand because the dishwasher just broke tooā¦painting furniture, selling furniture, decorating walls, rooms, spacesā¦taking care of the daily needs (physically, emotionally and spiritually) of not only myself but all of my little people and my husbandā¦while growing this bellyā¦
And itās enough.Ā
Itās more than enough.
I have neglected other peopleās expectations and a few invitations as well as phone calls, voicemails, friendships, extended family, and emails, not to mention this blog and all social media. There is much I have had to let go of as I learn all over again that itās okay to get lost in my season.
And there have been a lot of moments I feel guilty about that. Somehow I wrongly believe I am supposed to continue to be all things to all people in every situation in every season.
But itās just not true. Not for me and not for you either.
Maybe youāre there tooā¦maybe youāre in a season when just getting done the basics of the everyday is the limit that you can handle. Maybe youāve just moved too, or just had a baby, or maybe everyone in your home is sick, or youāve now got all of your kids home for summerā¦.maybe thereās some life circumstances that are difficult and you are tempted to feel guilty about cutting back or saying no.
And maybe you need to be told, as I do, to just get lost in your own life for a bit:
Get lost in your own home and what the immediate needs are.Ā
Drown out the noise, the clutter and clatter of keeping up with anyone elseās home.Ā
Get lost letting your biggest priorities be your only priorities.Ā
Get lost cutting everything and everyone away in order to focus solely on the main things and the main people God has placed in your life.
Get lost in the work of minimizing what is on your plate in order to fully taste what is right there, right now, right in front of you.
Get lost in the little moments of your own every day, your mundane, your routine, and your norm.
Get lost in your season.
Our goal as mothers should never be solely about our own lives, our own concerns, our own spaces and our own troubles. Meaning, these seasons of more solitude and cutting back must never be the end all be all.Ā Ā We are meant to live life in such a way that allows us to open up our homes and our lives to serve others and be served by others, love others and be loved by others and to include others in our lives.
Getting back to THAT season is the aim. But itās more than okay if that day isnāt today.
The good thing about seasons is they come and they go, just like the tideā¦and youāre going to be just fine if youāre in one that requires you to hole up for a while to focus solely on whatās right in front of youā¦with nothing more.
I trust the Lord will lead you, as I trust He will lead me, when itās time to add more back in. Which means we can slow down, rest and enjoy this season of enough being enough, and live fully in it without guilt because we have the confidence it wonāt last forever.Ā
Let Him rebuild it back in time and for now, just get lost mama.Ā
Get lost in your season.
It is so easy to want to be “all things to all men.” Modern mamas are blessed with so many opportunities, and despite our modern-day conveniences, we still get too busy and often overwhelmed. We put unnecessary pressures on ourselves. Sometimes we just need to be still and rest.
That is so true. Sometimes opportunities can be the death of peace in our homes. When we take on too much it can rob us of the joy of simplicity. Thanks for sharing!
AMEN!! And on that note.. I retract my invite to hang out š Ha! But seriously do keep me in mind if I can ever come feed your kids and watch them so you can nap. Dead serious! Praise God for how youāre being obedient to staying focused on your fam in this season. XO
Oh Meg my friend I needed this today. Going through a tough time now. Tre or wasjust told a weeks go he needs a kindney transplant and Iām going through a break up and moving. Life can be so overwhelming sometimes. Thank you for writing this.ššš»
Ohhhh Kel!!! I’m so so sorry to hear that! I’ll text you today! Praying for you friend. And for Tre! What in the world? Why a kidney transplant?? I wish I was local and could pick you up for dinner.